As most of you know, Kim and I just sent our children off to Kindergarten. We said our good-bye’s to our little guys as they got on this big bus, taking them to this big school with all new kids…and they come home to tell us NOTHING.
They walk in the front door and we have so many things we are dying to know — from what they did, how they felt, to who they sat next too at lunch, and if they found the bathroom, but getting answers out of our kids is no easy task.
My daughter Olivia is no exception. She came home from her first day at Kindergarten and I started in with my enthusiastic questioning, and all I got from my her was, “I don’t want to talk about it.” Sound familiar?
WHAT? I have been sitting by the door for the last hour, anxiously awaiting for you to get off the bus and tell me everything, and this is what I get? So I start begging for some answers. No luck.
Maybe she is hungry. So I bring out the snacks, hoping a little nutritional recharge will help get her talking. Keeping to the topic, I ask, “So, who did you sit next to at lunch today?” Her response, “I don’t know.”
Ok… So I sit and wait. Then I try another one, “Did you meet any new friends?” Her response, “no.”
After a few more failed attempts, I realized where this was going. So I said, “I understand if you don’t want to talk, but do me ONE favor… give me a thumbs up if you loved school, a thumbs sideways if you thought it was just ok or a thumbs down if it was horrible.”
I got a Thumbs Up and a BIG smile.
So while I didn’t get many words, I got a sign that told me everything I needed to know.